We counsel brides (yes, sometimes we feel like counselors!) every day on the best strategies for wedding invitation wording that reflects unique situations. One of the questions we frequently receive surrounds the traditional practice of listing the brideâ€™s parents on the invitation, but not the groomâ€™s.
A wedding invitation is just like an invite to any other party, where the hosts are the ones doing the inviting. Traditionally, even though the happy couple, the groomâ€™s parents, and a cadre of friends and well-meaning aunties may be involved in the planning, the brideâ€™s parents are the ones who foot the bill and, therefore, are considered the â€œhostsâ€ of the wedding. As hosts, they are the ones listed as â€œrequesting the honour of your presence.â€ Itâ€™s not a slight to the groomâ€™s side, but rather a logical course of action.
Of course, in todayâ€™s world, the brideâ€™s parents arenâ€™t always necessarily the ones covering the lionâ€™s share of the cost. And we very often see invitations where the groomâ€™s parents or the couple themselves are listed as the eventâ€™s hosts. The decision is most practically determined by choosing to name the event’s host and leaving it at that.
But whatâ€™s a bride (or groom) to do if one set of parents (or a single parent) is paying and the other family is griping about not receiving some sort of â€œshout outâ€ on the invitation? Rest assured, weâ€™ve seen it all! Weâ€™ll start hitting on some of these potentially stickier situations on the blog next week â€“ stay tuned!